Should I be alarmed if my child says, “I saw Mrs. Mason (Hufft) today”?
There is no need to worry. I spend a significant amount of time working with students in their classrooms. During guidance lessons I partner with teachers to make the school a great place for your child to learn. But remember, sometimes kids like to see the counselor for little things. If a student has a problem they need help solving, want to have lunch together, have a conflict with another student or want to share a special accomplishment they might ask to see me. However, I always encourage students to go home and share with parents when and why we met. If there is an ongoing issue or major concern, I always call or e-mail parents.
Who refers students to the school counselor?
Parents often ask “Who refers a child to the school counselor?” Sometimes kids refer themselves by asking their teacher or filling out a counselor note. Sometimes parents call Mrs. Mason (Hufft) or teachers let her know of a concern & a student needs to talk.
Here are some reasons a student might talk with the school counselor:
- "I'm getting picked on at the bus stop and I don't know what to do about it."
- "My best friend isn't talking to me and it's making me really sad."
- "I want to show you what I just made in art. I'm very proud of it."
- "I'm new to this school, and I'm really scared!"
- "When am I going to get to be in a Friendship Group or have lunch with you?
- "I did a lot better on my last math test, and I'm so excited to tell someone!"
- "Tim, Samantha and I had a problem at recess. Can you help us work it out?"
Here are some reasons a parent might refer to the counselor:
- "Sarah doesn't want to go to school in the mornings."
- "I'm concerned because Alex keeps telling me that he doesn't have any friends. Do you think a Friendship Group might help?"
- "We recently had a death in the family, and I'm not sure how to tell my child."
- "We’re going through a divorce and we think our kids could really benefit from talking about it with other kids who are going through the same thing. We'd like to refer them for a Family Change Group.”
- "Jason seems to get really frustrated doing his homework and nothing seems to help."
- "I just wanted to thank you for inviting my daughter to participate in a New Student Group. She really enjoyed meeting some other kids were new to Liberty Oaks."
Here are some reasons a teacher or administrator might refer to the school counselor:
- "I need some ideas to help Bobby develop relationships with peers in our classroom."
- "Joe just can't sit still in the classroom."
- "Ethan is absent a lot."
- "Patrick is new to this school and needs some special attention."
- "I've noticed that Amanda seems distracted and anxious a lot lately."
- "Lindsey is a great kid, but she's really shy and doesn't seem to be comfortable initiating friendships. I think she'd benefit from participating in a Friendship Group."
If you'd like for me to talk with your child, feel free to contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org or 816.736.5606.